For some, Valentine’s Day is a holiday they look forward to all year long. They can’t wait for a full day of celebrating how lucky they are in love. But for many singles, the pressure to find a date and the larger pressure to find someone to fall in love with can be overwhelming. First of all, there’s never anything wrong with being single. No matter what the media (or maybe your own grandmother) is telling you. Second, if we put ourselves on a deadline to find love, we’re going to experience a lot of unnecessary pressure. Instead of taking on extra stress this Valentine’s Day, we hope you’ll consider celebrating being single. In this blog, our trusted therapy team walks through some simple ways you can enjoy being single this Valentine’s Day and avoid the added pressure of the holiday.

Pamper Yourself

If you’re feeling sad or lonely on Valentine’s Day, stay in and pamper yourself. Take a nice long bubble bath with your favorite beverage or cup of hot tea. Make your favorite meal. Put on a facemask and binge a true crime show. You deserve it! Valentine’s Day is also a great excuse to finally give in and treat yourself to that new outfit or piece of jewelry that you’ve been eyeing and not buying. Do whatever makes you feel relaxed and happy.

Spend Time with Friends & Family

Spending time with loved ones on Valentine’s Day can serve as an important reminder that you aren’t alone, and you are loved. Remember, romantic love is only one kind of love. Soak up the joy of familial love and the love of good friends. It’s just as important as romance. Even if your friends and loved ones have Valentine’s Day plans, you can still spend some time with them on the 14th before their dates or the day before or after. You’re in charge of how you celebrate Valentine’s Day – not the calendar!

Take Yourself on a Dream Date

One of the best things about being single is that you can do anything you want. You don’t have to compromise on eating at your partner’s favorite restaurant, so you can go see a cheesy rom-com afterward. If you’ve been waiting for a significant other to take you out on Valentine’s Day to do all the things you want to do, maybe it’s time you treat yourself to that dream date. Eat at your favorite restaurant, go see a movie or play, go to the spa. Do whatever you enjoy. While you don’t have to worry about compromising with a partner, you can make Valentine’s Day all about you.

Invest in Your Long-Term Happiness

If you’ve been struggling with being single or you feel like you just can’t figure out relationships, maybe it’s time to talk to a therapist. By putting forth the effort to commit to deeper self-knowledge and exploration, you can begin to move toward achieving your relationship goals and feeling happier in the future. When you’re ready to get started, the Behavioral Health Alliance team is here to help. Simply reach out to our team using the online scheduling request form. You can also call (952) 652-3439 or email We look forward to hearing from you soon.